Believe in Your self

Just think: What difference would it make in your life if you had an absolutely unshakable confidence in your ability to achieve anything you really put your mind to? 
What would you want and wish and hope for? What would you dare to dream if you believed in yourself with such deep conviction that you had no fears of failure whatsoever?

Most people start off with little or low self-confidence, but as a result of their own efforts, they become bold and brave and outgoing. And we’ve discovered that if you do the same things that other self-confident men and women do, you, too, will experience the same feelings and get the same results.

Connect with people.  

New perspectives in neuroscience are emerging that emphasize the importance of persistently forging and reworking our relationships with others to support functional brain processes.As such, we will likely be unsuccessful at changing our habits without first realizing the degree to which our behaviors are conditioned by, or in some way dependent on, others around us.

If you find that other people are constantly coming to you for advice, but you rarely feel like you have someone to talk to yourself when you’re unhappy, it could be the case that you’ve come to serve the role of nurturer in your group of friends. 

Build you up. 

Work on thinking positively about yourself and your behavior. Fight the urge to be negative by identifying two of your strengths every day.

·            Make sure that you challenge any unproductive thought that enters your head. If you catch yourself thinking negative thoughts like “I am a loser,” “no one likes me,” and “I can’t do anything right,” stop yourself and challenge the thought. Counter it with productive thoughts, identifying two positive things about yourself. The more that you practice this positive thinking, the easier it will become.

·      For example, if you catch yourself having a negative thought like, “I am terrible at math,” reframe the thought in a more productive way by saying something like, "I find math challenging, but I am working hard and improving."

Be proactive. 

Procrastinating, or putting things off because they are difficult, sets you up for failure. When you have less time to do a task, you'll rush and miss things. Instead, do things on time so that you have the extra time to do your best! Experiencing the small successes of completed tasks can contribute to believing that you can accomplish greater tasks.

·          For example, you might have a sink full of dishes to clean but decide to put it off so that you can watch your favorite T.V. show. But before you know it, several other demands might arise, such as the T.V. going out and needing to be fixed or a problem arising with a bill you received, which might end up forcing you to put off the dishes even longer.

·        Instead of letting everyday life demands pile on top of each other, tackle them as soon as you think about it. It might be unpleasant at first, but after a while it will become second nature and your day-to-day affairs will seem to take care of themselves.

Focus on the positive.

 Psychologists have found that we often focus on negative comments about ourselves while ignoring the positive ones.We also tend to assume people are focusing on us more than they are.Try to remind yourself to focus on the positive more than the negative. If you find either yourself or those around you being extra critical, think about making some changes.

Pay attention to your appearance and hygiene. 

Believing in yourself may be easier if you feel confident in the way that you look as well. You can make sure that you are looking and feeling your best by keeping a good daily hygiene and grooming routine.Make sure that you:

·                                 Shower or bathe

·                                 Style your hair

·                                 Trim or file your nails

·                                 Shave or keep your beard well groomed (men)

·                                 Brush your teeth (2X daily)

·                                 Maintain a pleasant body odor by using deodorant, scented lotions & perfumes

·                                 Wear clothes that fit well and make you feel good

·                                 wear makeup that accentuates your best features (women)

Exercise every day.

 Exercise has long been noted for its ability to help reduce stress and make people feel happier, but some studies have also shown that exercise may help improve one’s confidence levels. Make sure to include at least 30 minutes of exercise into your daily routine to reap the physical and mental health benefits of exercise.

Talk to people who love you. 

If you're having trouble seeing all the wonderful things about yourself, you can always talk to someone who loves you. Sometimes we have difficulty seeing the best things about ourselves, but the people who love us will never struggle to see those things.

·                        Say something like, “Lately I have felt like I am not good at anything, but I am trying to move past that and identify my skills. What do you think I am good at?”